Doing a progressive overload routine and finally failed a deadlift set at 117.5 kg - even the deload is around the max I was at before (over a year ago or so) so I'm actually pretty psyched, even though I failed the set.
I think I was a little too scared of the weight the last time I was working out, but my form seems good now. Only issue I'm going through is the bar scraping my shins and knees, especially while lowering the weight.
Yeah maxxing is bad for you. Don't do it. Its for dick measuring. Try to be incremental. Do a full body workout by doing back squats, and do them in sets. That's how you get massive and have amazing abs. Don't even need to do much else either.