And it has all kinds of implications and context and shit.
How the fuck am I supposed to tell what's just people doing things at random and what's a part of all-singing-all-dancing-shit-show the neurotypicals call "social norms"? Down with NTs.
Honestly while it's really fucking annoying that refusal to participate could result in some silly neuronormo interpreting a completely innocuous action as an offense, and it can cut you off from social shit, I think it's basically the only way. The same button never does the same thing twice. Screeching rn.
I have a weird problem where I often know (from experience) what the expected cue probably is, but I often can't bring myself to perform it when prompted by social pressure. It's like a laughtrack in a very unfunny sitcom: the cue is to laugh, and I refuse.
Internally i know what i am supposed to do but externally I'm now stunlocked while my brain cycles through 500 dialogue options and then i end up saying something really out of pocket and weirding people out. I don't care so much anymore but it made my 20's unlivable