you don't have to describe them in detail with dates, not trying to get you to doxx yourself

but it's kind of A Thing with neurodivergent folks to have tried a lot of different jobs, and I'm curious about everybody's count

I think I'm up to 21 that I've filed taxes for, which doesn't seem that extreme for 42, except when you consider that I've been unemployed most of my son's 17 years of life because I couldn't handle parenting and that level of outside obligations, so most of those happened before I was 25 – so 20ish jobs between 15-25

how bout you, how many things have you tried?

  • dustbunnies [she/her, comrade/them]
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    18 days ago

    and I cannot handle responsibility I run in terror when it is given to me.

    wish I had your good sense!! 😂 I accept it and then wither under the weight. truly wish I had your self-knowledge and foresight to just not

    Different grocery store, I quit after a day because there was no real guidance on what to do that first day.

    👑

    incredible. iconic. role model.

    I have served as a union shop steward and sit on the health and safety committee.

    👑👑👑👑👑👑👑👑👑

    INCREDIBLE. ICONIC. ROLE MODEL.

    After ten years of steward thing I resigned from it, incredibly stressful role often having to see employees get fired for things they didn't realize was technically theft.

    💔 that must have been really hard.

    but turning a leisure outlet into work production is brutal and it felt like I could never turn off and enjoy life anymore.

    fucking real talk about the commoditization of hobbies, it fucking sucks

    I had a mortgage that I was often paying off by myself because my ex would get tired of their job and quit or work so badly until they fired them (so they wouldn't have to bother quitting which is funny but kind of rude to me), so during those 7 years I think I had maybe 3 weeks of vacation.

    was your ex also neurodivergent or disabled? that also sounds really fucking hard, and reminds me of how much I lean on my partner for support and how tiring it must be for him.

    • ryepunk [he/him]
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      18 days ago

      Thank you for the kind words. I always feel imposter syndrome and rarely feel like anyone except my partner ever says they value me so it's real hard to get up and get to work day after day.

      My ex had something going on, I tried to respect them as much as possible and was always supportive to help them get jobs or even just the effort of applying for jobs. Possibly ADHD, anxiety issues as well, they switched meds a few times when were together. We also ended up having completely opposite sex drives which soured things pretty badly, they also were really against masturbation which was very stressful for me. Although possibly I just wasn't paying enough attention to their needs and desires, I feel like I could have tried harder but work and everything and well maybe I could have been better?

      I know they spent days sitting in bed feeling bad about not helping out, but eventually it becomes hard to feel sorry when I'm completely burned out from work. I once heard that we all have batteries and eventually they drain and yea at a certain point I did find it very hard not to be bitter at them being at home so much and able to play games watch streams and movies and tv shows.

      We split up when they were in a decent place, they had been working consistently for about a year by that point and they had initiated talks that they no longer cared for me and thought of me more as a roommate or friend. And then I tried to make it work, tried to get a better job (that was what caused me to try looking into teaching English before covid put that whole thing on the backburner for 2 years). I hope they're doing well. They had a good job the last time we spoke.

      Hey thanks for reading through my post. Appreciated it.