They never got over getting curved by their own people in middle/high school and let that gouge in their mind become their whole personality as an adult. Can't tell me that's not a significant source of misleadership.

EDIT: What still fucks with me sometimes is I absolutely fell down that rabbithole growing up. I was the lil brother whose poetry never rhymed or metered enough to fit a sixteen in middle school, never found my innate rhythm until I learned how to play bass in high school, gravitated more toward peeling computers layer by layer than going up for sports-- then I left my hometown and had to reckon with the fact when I'm not surrounded by as much whiteness as I was, I started flourishing. My pull magnified and expanded by leaps and bound when I left home; and all that aggrieved blerd shit stopped making sense.

Like, I'm not even gonna go thru the whole 'seek therapy' canard; 'cause I got past it without. It just requires a few levels of self-awareness and awareness of the spaces you inhabit.