So, back when I was "still cis tho", there were a lot of aspects of male gender norms that bothered me deeply and of course I totally understand why now. Even though these days I obviously have a clear reason for feeling that way, I'm still curious if cishet men also have issues with how norms or expectations around gender and sexuality impact them in a negative way.
I'd love to hear your thoughts on how those norms impact you, whether good or bad.
Also, I should mention that since this is a bit of a sensitive subject we're talking about here, please be thoughtful and sensitive when discussing with others in this thread. Thanks! <3
EDIT: Much thanks for all the great responses here! I know it's a difficult topic of course, so I appreciate you sharing your thoughts/feelings like this.
Speaking of which... I just looked at /c/menby and some of the posts on the front page there are over 2 years old. I see a lot of the discussion here centered around not being able to share feelings and/or not having the spaces or support to do that in. /c/menby seems like the perfect place for that, just sayin'.
Your view on long-term relationships seems really black and white and extremely traditional. I'm not exactly the best person to talk on relationships since I'm recently divorced, but it was for reasons unrelated to what you're talking about. I meshed really well with my ex for the decade+ that we were married. We never devolved into boredom or any of that. You should consider the middle-ground when it comes to relationships, because that's where most of them fall. And trust me when I say that a healthy relationship doesn't have the couple putting each other at the center of their existence. We all need our own lives to live. I can't be around a SO 24/7 doing stuff with them 24/7. I have things I would like to do by myself.
Thank you for your perspective. If you have experienced divorce I guess you might be older than me so it is reassuring to think that I might simply lack experience