So yeah title says it all, currently around 8 months into a new hospital position and I've been extending my feelers out and doing job apps and got back invites to the start of preliminary interviews for some other jobs (mainly cuss there is likely going to be no significant pay raises for all us new hires until 2 years out so fuck that).
Bring this up to parents though and they have the weirdest attitude as though I'm betraying my company as well as shooting myself in the foot even though if I got some of these positions I'm interviewing for I'd see a huge pay bump and really good benefits (one of them is a state gig and has a damned good pension plan with only 5 years to be vested fully).
Why did boomers have kids anyway? They all seem to hate us. My dad loves reminding me how he didn't really want kids and how he hated my mom. Why the fuck did you marry and impregnate here then?!?!?!?
that sounds more like a personal issue your dad has possibly linked to societal pressure
I've meet a lot of millennials who say their parents acted annoyed and off put by them, or just flat out say they didn't want them like mine. I've meet boomers who say they hate their kids. I think there is a trend here.
fair enough I have never observed a boomer who I didn't think sincerely loves their kids though so I don't think it's a very common thing
I mean that's good for you.
My dads actually alright for a boomer dad, he just has a big mouth and no filter so will just randomly say insensitive shit that any smarter person would understand is dumb to say. He says he's happy he had kids now but that our mom did kinda bully him into having us initially.
My childhood was mid and my parents were flawed but they weren't abusive or anything. But I have met a lot of boomers who seem to hate their kids and younger people in general.
Do they hate their kids or are they complaining about their kids
The amount of complaining is pretty extreme.
And on several occasions they have just straight up said they hate them.
ok that does sound pretty bad
Really? I wish i could also only encounter these boomers.
That is a really good question. Even if they don't say they hate us, the fact that they got theirs and kicked away the ladder, after selling us a bill of goods about college meaning we'll all be set. Then enjoying like 25 years of avacado toast and millenials are killing the x industry bullshit, never asking why we don't actually have houses. Seems like hate to me.
They put their parents in homes and are keeping us from having them. Its fascinating how in virtually one generation they completely broke how families have lived and taken care of each other for like 100,000 years.
Disclaimer: generational stuff is bullshit, and "not all boomers" or whatever random boomer defenders need to here.
People say this, but idk who, and I can't find it myself, but someone here posts stats sometimes that seem to back up the stereotype. Boomers weren't only more right leaning than their kids, but even their parents, apparently the silent generation was more progressive than Boomers.
And while everyone likes to focus on the counter culture of the 60s and 70s, in reality the far right was doing well with the youth back then too. The 70s was actually a great time for young republicans groups. The hippies were anything a reaction to the reactionary tendencies of their peers.
Idk what to blame it one but it does seem this one generation did veer way more regressive than most others.
They're are material reasons for this. Its just still very shocking and feels very personal if you had the misfortune to have them as parents.
The perception of what is normal to boomers is so extermely abnormal to basically all of humanity. They lived through an exterme anomaly but instead of being aware or greatful, they instead believe that the extreme prosperity and privelege enjoyed by white Americans during that time is actually the norm for all people.
It's a combination of societal norms to get married and have kids and the instinctual drive most people have to have sex (which obviously leads to kids). The societal norm of having kids is likely due to economic concerns because for most of history children would provide free agricultural labour. This will probably slowly shift as having kids is now an economic drain because we don't want kids to work in the mines.