Find things you enjoy doing to avoid that sense of loser-dom. Seek a balance between things you can do on your own that make you feel better about yourself and communal-type activities like @BodyBySisyphus@hexbear.net mentioned.
Solitary hobbies could be getting into reading, crafts, cooking, gardening, the gym etc. There are even hexbear comms for these! and then integrating that interest into some IRL group activity. I'm not going to guarantee you'll find a girlfriend, but at least you'll have some interests you can talk about when you meet someone.
I haven't been on "the apps" in many years, but I've heard they've gotten worse for everyone involved. So, proceed with caution.
Find things you enjoy doing to avoid that sense of loser-dom. Seek a balance between things you can do on your own that make you feel better about yourself and communal-type activities like @BodyBySisyphus@hexbear.net mentioned.
Solitary hobbies could be getting into reading, crafts, cooking, gardening, the gym etc. There are even hexbear comms for these! and then integrating that interest into some IRL group activity. I'm not going to guarantee you'll find a girlfriend, but at least you'll have some interests you can talk about when you meet someone.
I haven't been on "the apps" in many years, but I've heard they've gotten worse for everyone involved. So, proceed with caution.
If you're going to do The Apps, I think the bee one has a "find friends" option.
Alternately, I've been playing a lot of pokemon go to try to meet people in my area in a casual, non-dating context.
What if my loneliness and the resulting depression has gotten so bad that it overshadows my enjoyment of the things I once did as hobbies
I’m just a simple shitposter, not a mental health resource.