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  • kristina [she/her]
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    3 years ago

    i mean a lot of it has to do with consent. my bf is a smart guy and he rams his dick into my (clothed) butt all the time and grunts like a cave man. i think its funny. he also grabs at me a lot while we're one on one. obviously if you do that to anyone else thats creepy. i think youre probably fine because youre so worried about this, tbh a lot of men do not introspect at all about this and it makes them do awful things.

    to me, objectification has a lot to do with how people treat you. people can be attracted to you and be polite, or maybe nervous around you, and thats fine! but when they dont think about 'oh hey maybe shes not into being called sugar tits by a random guy' thats when it becomes a problem. a lot of this has to do with personal boundaries, and i know that probably wont help someone who is super anxious about it, because there simply isnt one standard. if youre interested in someone you need to learn their standard.

    i used to be in your boat a lot tbh. but i became way more loose about it and whenever i was on a date with someone or interested with someone id just ask them if theyd be down to cuddle and talk about shit more personally. sometimes that worked, sometimes it didnt, but it seems to have worked well! though i am a woman so maybe most people like that from a woman, idk

      • kristina [she/her]
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        3 years ago

        lmao this is so whack bring back downvotes :downbear:

      • jabrd [he/him]
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        3 years ago

        What’s the opposite of the spray bottle emoji

              • SuperNovaCouchGuy [any]
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                3 years ago

                I am an anti-natalist myself, and I tell you this wholeheartedly

                Log off and have sex copelord, anti-natalism has no substantive base when unmoored from leftist politics so you stand on nothing when you shit your pants on this site.

                • UnironicAntiNatalist [none/use name]
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                  3 years ago

                  I had sex a couple months ago. Felt nice but realized it was essentially me using someone else as a masturbation aid, which is really fucked up.

                  Also unless you can ensure that both parties enjoyed a sexually encounter equally it’s an unequal exchange which is unethical under Marxism, and most sexually encounters are very much not equally pleasant for no the parties, especially hetero ones.

                  • jabrd [he/him]
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                    3 years ago

                    I don't like if this is a bit because it feels like it's mocking ace people which isn't cool and if it's not a bit I feel bad because I'm mocking an ace person which isn't cool

                  • ToastGhost [he/him]
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                    3 years ago

                    folks, is it exploitation to have a little more fun during a group activity than the other person?

                  • Zoift [he/him]
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                    3 years ago

                    it’s an unequal exchange which is unethical under Marxism

                    When u try to materialism so hard you commodify sex. Good job 👍

                      • Zoift [he/him]
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                        3 years ago

                        It looks like they have a premise where qualia & fundamental biological desires both have use, labor, and exchange values. Rather than just, you know, being things one can experience with your limited time on Earth and enjoy them for their intrinsic worth as a mode of Qualia.

                        Nah, much better to voluntary debride yourself of parts of your own ego, find it impossible and be haunted forevermore. This is amazingly alienated and doompilled shit.

                          • Zoift [he/him]
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                            3 years ago

                            Nah, I'm high right now.

                            This is massively internalized self hate, or a bit that is indistinguishable from it.

                            Edit:

                            Only way it wouldn’t be is if they’re going around having sex with people who are reluctant

                            It makes sense under their fucked up logic if they as a sexual being hold no worth. Under that framework any sex they might have is done under some form of systemic coercion or done from a point of unequally informed sex exchangers.