Good attention grabber huh? Don't worry, I don't use it and I'm not trying to say I should.

I recently hung out with my neighbors. They really wanted to smoke me out. I'm 32 living in what is essentially off campus student apartments. 4 bed 4 bath, etc.

They're all Hispanic in this apartment (above me). 2 are from South America - I forget which country - and 2 are from South Florida.

They throw around the N word, never pejoratively. As the only white guy in the room I'm not saying shit.

Question is, is this okay? As a white guy idk.

One of them also said the f slur for gay people and immediately apologized - 'sorry if that offended you '. That one I did tell him he knew it was wrong because he apologized immediately. I have a love always wins bracelet and a rainbow lanyard, very visible.

I'm 10+ years older than these kids. I'm honestly trying to figure out if this is baked-in or if they're just dumb kids and maybe I can be a positive influence. If it's baked-in then I'll just peace out. I don't know the culture and don't want to judge from an uninformed perspective.

    • isame [he/him]
      hexagon
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      1 year ago

      Thank you and everyone else for your replies. Glad to be informed by people who have some skin in the game, so to speak. I'll try to be a good example, at least, if they want to hang out more.

    • isame [he/him]
      hexagon
      ·
      1 year ago

      I do also want to reinforce that at no point was it used negatively. They were calling each other that and shit. I remember the white kids in school that used to do that and even then thought it was cringe as fuck.