This exactly, and your other comment as well. They really do need to read theory. I think something that happens is that kids that get labeled as gifted often have any underlying neurodivergence swept under the rug in the name of the meritocratic myth: if my kid is the pinnacle then they can't be "sick" too. It's an awful way to try and comprehend neurodivergence but I think it's prevalent. Giftedness often means "whatever amalgamation of effects that causes a five year old to perform exceedingly well on a measure of cultural fit and knowledge + pattern matching." Even the fast tracking to college is expressed as a commodification and dehumanization of the kid in question. It rarely yields any real help to them, beyond increasing social isolation.