• threebody [she/her]
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        1 year ago

        dude fuck off you have zero grounds to call me mentally ill, that is actually disgusting

          • threebody [she/her]
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            1 year ago

            Marxism informs us that women are sexually exploited under patriarchal society. The dominant forms of male heterosexuality is latently misogynistic. Im sure that there are people who are sexually attracted to woman who arent misogynistic, but in my case I genuinely believe that my sexual attraction to woman contains latent misogyny, and that must be fixed. Its impossible to eradicate it for good, but its current existence is enough to unsettle me. Just like how it is a common phenomenon within humans to think about jumping off when next to a cliff, there are people for whom that thought rarely pops up and doesnt affect them, and people like me for whom that thought frequently pops up and makes me scared of heights.

              • threebody [she/her]
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                1 year ago

                Blaming your internalized misogyny on an involuntary biological sexual response is not

                There is no way you think Im saying that lmao

                You've claimed in this thread that you believe you can choose to force yourself to be sexually attracted to men against your own will as a political act of defiance against internalized feelings of misogyny.

                You might genuinely be illiterate.

                they're simply choosing to be queer, and that they could just as easily choose not to be if they wanted to badly enough.

                What does that even mean? And yes there are plenty of house queers who choose to be house queers instead of fighting for liberation, and society have accepted their assimilation.

                This claim does nothing to address the root of your misogyny (your own beliefs and actions toward women)

                I am completely fine in that regard thankfully, which is why I am even worrying about sexuality in the first place because I notice the dissonance that my sexuality causes in my mind

                Frankly, you are the one who exposed yourself as being a pathetic biological essentialist philistine who thinks sex has anything to do with biology. No wonder you are spewing vitriol at me

    • threebody [she/her]
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      1 year ago

      and surely there is a way, I dont believe the sexuality is not a choice shit, if I wasnt a communist theres no way I would have sex with a man. So there is surely some other way to get rid of heterosexuality?

      • cfgaussian@lemmygrad.ml
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        1 year ago

        I think it is just as impossible to "get rid of heterosexuality" as it is to get rid of non-heterosexuality.

      • DankZedong @lemmygrad.ml
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        1 year ago

        So I read your first comment above and then I read this and I got a bit lost. Is your problem that you have heterosexual tendencies and that you think that's wrong? Are you bisexual because you're communist?

        • DamarcusArt@lemmygrad.ml
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          1 year ago

          I think they might be assuming that all masculinity is toxic masculinity, or their tastes aren't as "vanilla" as they claimed in their original statement and they're projecting their own personal demons onto everyone else.

        • threebody [she/her]
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          1 year ago

          I mean, if I was not a communist I would not have been able to deconstruct my latent homophobia, and as a result not have been attracted by men, but there is no direct connection there

      • ☭ 𝗚𝗿𝗮𝗶𝗻𝗘𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗿 ☭@lemmygrad.mlM
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        1 year ago

        You don't believe that sexuality isn't a choice, meaning you believe that it is a choice? It's definitely not. And there's no reason a communist can't be heterosexual; that just means that you haven't been -- or at least aren't aware of ever having been -- attracted to someone of your gender (yet; you can't be sure that it'll never happen or that it hasn't happened without your knowledge)

        • threebody [she/her]
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          1 year ago

          the idea that sexuality is not a choice is a liberal copout that refuses to confront the very real sexual exploitation that our entire society is based on. in that case, are the millions of men whose sexuality literally involves violence towards women and queer people justified? There is clearly culpability. how could anyone be liberated if sexuality is thought of as something outside of the individual's control.

          • DankZedong @lemmygrad.ml
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            1 year ago

            Sexuality is not sex. People that are violent towards others in a sexual way do so without consent. You can be hetero and violent, gay and violent, pan and violent, etc. You having violent sexual fantasies is not linked with your sexuality, which is something that you cannot choose. Yes, our patriarchic society is in many ways sexually exploitative towards women and other minorities, but that does not mean being heterosexual is a bad thing. Also, there is no marxist view that says you cannot be heterosexual. That would be an extremely weird ideology.

            • threebody [she/her]
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              1 year ago

              Im not saying you cannot be heterosexual. I also dont have any violent sexual fantasies. Marxism also tells us higher education is heavily bourgeois and serves to maintain capitalism and exploit workers. Does that make education bad inherently? Of course not, but if you are going to university and dont actively fight bourgeois ideology you will quickly become a servant of the bourgeoisis. The same logic applies to sex.

              • DankZedong @lemmygrad.ml
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                1 year ago

                Please talk to a professional about whatever issues you are experiencing with your sexuality. It seems like you got quite a few things mixed up here and I don't think Lemmygrad is the right place for you to work those things out.