Yeah I’ve definitely struggled with that. It helped to sort out what bits of my own masculinity gave me joy. A lot of it is stuff that isn’t inherently gendered, but it’s stuff that I gender on myself. I really like having a beard. I really like doing handiwork for people. I really like my broad shoulders. Other stuff I’ve had to decouple from more toxic aspects. Like I enjoy being able to keep my emotions in check in order to put other people’s needs before my own. Obviously there are a lot of ways that tends to lead to toxicity, especially in men, but I like being able to bust it out when I need it and not having it be my only coping mechanism. And then I’ve been tossing out stuff I don’t like. I can’t fucking stand how boring men’s clothing is so a lot of stuff I’ve been buying lately is more gender-neutral women’s clothing. I can’t stand the constant pressure to be still. I dance a lot more now. It’s all pretty personal but I hope the examples help