there are men in my life that I love, and I’ve been treated badly by men before
Idk u just gotta believe there are good ones. I know several of the good ones. There are a lotta good men and if u hate all of them then you’ll never get the chance to meet the good ones. They’re just little dudes
I am a little drunk rn if that explains my phrasing
Find some good ones and spend time with them. Like buds.
This does not apply if this makes you uncomfortable.
i searched through a couple thousand dudes on a dating app and found my current bf who is rad and has nice forearms for me to lick
that helps a little
we also hate men together, and hes strong enough to overpower 99.9% of men (he could legit be an olympic weightlifter for his class, he just hates showing off and cutting, which he thinks is super unhealthy), which is nice. so we share a pasttime, considering that im a trans woman and obviously can destroy any woman in sports just by flicking my finger.
:arm-L: :sicko-fem: :arm-R:
also way off track but my bf is so buff and white the he gets immediate respect from conservatives to the point that they agree with him on so many things relating to socialism. he convinced his libertarian manager that socialism was good and so was castro once. sorry kinda gushing love my big ogre man. we sometimes debate if he could take on a bear and win. i think he def could with training, he thinks he could do it without training
It is hilarious how conservatives instantly respect the opinions of jacked white dudes. Then again just about every one respects you more if you look like you could easily kick their ass but it does seem to be much more pronounced with right wingers.
Jacked or have that “executive” kind of look. We’re kinda taught to be biased towards those archetypes through media. I thinks there’s just a thing in people’s lizard brain that’s like “he look like authority figure from movie must be telling truth!”
Good point, I doubt a guy with long hair and a lip piercing would be taken half as seriously Mr. Buzz cut.
This could be the secret to changing right wingers' minds on socialism. Get real jacked and white.
I am happy for you but god am i so envious.
I hope one day I am able to also write a post like this...
Where does your hatred come from? Lots of possible guesses, but it still varies
Toxic masculinity, past experiences, 80% of violent crime, media made by men depicting women, online interactions, myself, basically everyrhing
Honestly if the hatred itself isn’t negatively affecting your life I don’t think it’s your job to fight resentment. Just listening to the amount of situational vigilance that women and femme people need to have on a near constant basis is enough for me to not feel bad about getting stereotyped sometimes.
My safety will rarely if ever depend on being able to size people up quickly, so I don’t think I’m in a position judge the people for whom it does. A lot of guys get offended at this because they’ve literally done less consideration of their own capacity for violence than the stranger meeting them has. So like... who are you trying to stop hating for? If it’s a “drinking a poison and hoping your enemy dies” sort of thing or if it’s unprocessed trauma, then I can understand that. But otherwise those are all valid things to be upset about and the extent to which it’s a problem is situational based on how it’s affecting important relationships in your life
It's because I'm stuck being the same category as all of those people for the rest of my life, if that's the case then I don't want to be at all
Yeah I’ve definitely struggled with that. It helped to sort out what bits of my own masculinity gave me joy. A lot of it is stuff that isn’t inherently gendered, but it’s stuff that I gender on myself. I really like having a beard. I really like doing handiwork for people. I really like my broad shoulders. Other stuff I’ve had to decouple from more toxic aspects. Like I enjoy being able to keep my emotions in check in order to put other people’s needs before my own. Obviously there are a lot of ways that tends to lead to toxicity, especially in men, but I like being able to bust it out when I need it and not having it be my only coping mechanism. And then I’ve been tossing out stuff I don’t like. I can’t fucking stand how boring men’s clothing is so a lot of stuff I’ve been buying lately is more gender-neutral women’s clothing. I can’t stand the constant pressure to be still. I dance a lot more now. It’s all pretty personal but I hope the examples help
Women's clothes are way more comfortable, at least the casual stuff. I love just hanging around the house in a soft dress.
I don't particularly give a shit about gender but I do identify as male. I like a lot of stereotypical masculine shit, having a beard, doing combat sports, loving dumb action movies. But stuff like sexual aggression, the need to prove dominance and my manhood are straight up foreign to me. The idea that you can't have close loving friends of either gender, because if they're female you just want to fuck then and if they're male you're gay and just want to fuck them, is infuriating.
Not all men are toxic even if our society does predispose to them to be. Try to find some men you feel safe with and just hang out, eventually it will become fairly easy to differentiate the toxic ones from rest relatively quickly.
I'll ask the same question as I ask people with other less acceptable prejudices:
How many men do you interact with outside of the internet?
at this point idk if "hate" is the word I would use, but more.... exhausted. I'm just so tired of them all the time.
I am man and I am exhausted with myself.... just want everyone to take a really long nap........
Why stop? Misogyny is violence but misandry is just self defense. Cishet men as a group suck.
Ah. Then ascend the gender binary so that you can still be a man but realize it is a play within a play and meaningless except as performance
Ez pz
Based. I dont understand why but something across culture, space, and time has made it so that cishet men as an aggregate consistently follow a deeply anti-human and disgusting dogma when relating to other people.
Considering power imbalances, history, and the present, it is rational to hate men.
The reason I wanted fi stop is because it was making me suicidal and homicidal, but every time I learn more about human history I get more and more sure of the male sex being.. off. In some way. Not quite human, I suppose. And I hate being g stuck as one.
