Have any queer vibes to share? Here's your place! :hexbear-pride:

Talk about what’s happening queerly in your life, for example coming out, getting HRT, questioning and all that good stuff.

:no-copyright: No cishets allowed :blob-no:

  • WhatAnOddUsername [any]
    ·
    3 years ago

    This year is the first time I've made any real attempt at dating. I've tried online dating through Bumble and met up with people a couple times -- I seem to match with men more often than women by at least an order of magnitude. I have yet to really "click" with anyone I've met through online dating. Every conversation feels very awkward and forced. I think a better dating strategy for me would be to cultivate social hobbies in which I'm hanging out with other people, although that's still a challenge, because that takes a lot of energy out of me at the best of times, and the pandemic adds another layer of complexity.

    Unrelated: How do I know if I'm trans? I recently tried participating in a men's therapeutic group, and they were decent people, but I just didn't feel right there. But I also don't feel "right" most places and most times. I don't like being a man, but how much of that is just me not wanting to be a person at all?

    • notaleph [she/her]
      ·
      3 years ago

      Re: unrelated.

      If there were a big red button that would make you wake up tomorrow as not-a-man, would you push it?
      Also give yourself time & space to explore outside the bounds of 'man', it can mean as much or as little as you like, but try to find what does make you comfortable, or whatever makes you least uncomfortable.

      Also also be mindful of neurodivergence too, turns out a lot of my (social) discomfort/unbelonging was more influenced by being on the spectrum rather than being trans, though I'd change neither for the world.

      You got this comrade, your first paragraph shows that enough