Have any queer vibes to share? Here's your place! :hexbear-pride:
Talk about what’s happening queerly in your life, for example coming out, getting HRT, questioning and all that good stuff.
:no-copyright: No cishets allowed :blob-no:
Are there any good apps or whatever for T4T dating? I have no interest being emotionally vulnerable to cis people at this time
My wife and I are staying with straight family rn and that's weird and funny in the sense that it's made it really obvious that I haven't lived with cishets in ten years and it's really highlighting some cultural differences lol.
Watching a tv show that features a slow burn het couple that's one of the few in all of network television that deserves rights, and when they have certain tender or intimate moments i reflexively go "gayyyy" or try to explain what I mean by i like their dynamic "because of the lesbians of it all" or whatever. Then trying to translate or explain what I mean, which is like... how do I explain to you how to read queer coded characters when you've never needed that skill so can't pick up on that subtext, and then how to apply it to a m/f couple???? Like I'm sorry yes I know they're straight but also that's lesbians
Got some wodnerful "estrogen massage oils" in the mail. The packaging is both super cringy and pretty funny.
I know this is probably not really related but I finally had the courage to blatantly bring a same sex partner back to my apartment and actively fuck him in my room. Like I’m out and my roommates are chill but it still just feels awkward to me and I’m working to get over it.
This year is the first time I've made any real attempt at dating. I've tried online dating through Bumble and met up with people a couple times -- I seem to match with men more often than women by at least an order of magnitude. I have yet to really "click" with anyone I've met through online dating. Every conversation feels very awkward and forced. I think a better dating strategy for me would be to cultivate social hobbies in which I'm hanging out with other people, although that's still a challenge, because that takes a lot of energy out of me at the best of times, and the pandemic adds another layer of complexity.
Unrelated: How do I know if I'm trans? I recently tried participating in a men's therapeutic group, and they were decent people, but I just didn't feel right there. But I also don't feel "right" most places and most times. I don't like being a man, but how much of that is just me not wanting to be a person at all?
Re: unrelated.
If there were a big red button that would make you wake up tomorrow as not-a-man, would you push it?
Also give yourself time & space to explore outside the bounds of 'man', it can mean as much or as little as you like, but try to find what does make you comfortable, or whatever makes you least uncomfortable.Also also be mindful of neurodivergence too, turns out a lot of my (social) discomfort/unbelonging was more influenced by being on the spectrum rather than being trans, though I'd change neither for the world.
You got this comrade, your first paragraph shows that enough
Is anyone here a regular on lemmy.ml? I was checking out the Linux comm, and I was kinda surprised to see comments like this https://lemmy.ml/post/79771/comment/76338 which IMO has a lot of techbro vibes. Is their moderation team less proactive about this stuff than hexbear’s?
I use it sometimes. Yes there are active mods, I just think they're just more tolerant of lib shit like that
