I have a friend who I met while living in a different but semi-close city I enjoy spending time with, but I get the sense that they do not appreciate spending time with me as much as I do with them. I simply enjoy their company and appreciate that we can talk about similar things without me worrying about how I am being perceived lol

We were supposed to hangout but they canceled on me last minute. No worries, seems like it was important for them

I was thinking of saying the following: No problem! Maybe we can reconnect the next time I'm in the area, considering I have other folks up there I like to catch up with as well. happy holidays!

Is this an OK reply?

  • stigsbandit34z [they/them]
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    9 months ago

    Ok this is going to sound weird but hear me out

    I was talking to someone about another person in my family who requires more support needs. The family he belongs to have convinced themselves that he is completely unable to do anything himself because he is fundamentally unable

    But here’s the catch: He understands exactly what this all means and is able. Because when I ask if he is aware of this, they tell me he is and he’s very happy to do other things because he knows he can help in other ways.

    Is this not the most blatantly condescending shit you’ve ever heard? This is how I am treated because I’m a social weirdo, but the difference is I truly understand what it means to be treated like this.

    Also, the holidays just make this realization worse tbh