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  • WhoaSlowDownMaurice [they/them, undecided]
    hexagon
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    3 years ago

    sometimes the ‘mistakes’ are cute and endearing, even. like one time he was so nervous his hand was trembling a bit and i noticed so i decided to give him a cuddle to calm him down. hes this big burly dude and he was so nervous that his hand was shaking! very cute

    Good to know mistakes aren't bad and I should worry less about making them :comfy:

    but some of the mistakes were pretty big mistakes. two times he accidentally triggered me due to my ptsd. but my triggers are hard to get used to (if your voice is too loud or if you touch a certain part of my back i freak out), so obviously i just kept going and it was fine in the long run once he got used to them. the main thing is he was sincerely apologetic and even did things to make up for the bad experience (re: found a fun live performance for us to watch together)

    ...or maybe I should worry about them, sorry to hear all that.

    • kristina [she/her]
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      3 years ago

      its just something that happens, you know? even my best friends trigger me sometimes. but the reason theyre my friends is theyre apologetic and do things to help me calm down (one has a stash of cookies in her car lmao). if you do end up dating a girl with these sorts of issues, just be attentive and listen to what she needs to happen for her to calm down _

      my bf is very good at this now, he calms me down faster than anyone else ever has. love the big bear hugs and the neck rubs

      • WhoaSlowDownMaurice [they/them, undecided]
        hexagon
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        3 years ago

        if you do end up dating a girl with these sorts of issues, just be attentive and listen to what she needs to happen for her to calm down _

        Well, I'll definitely make sure to learn that by the book to the letter if I date anyone with issues like that. Want to be like the best bf ever in that situation.

        I worried about making those kinds mistakes making me a bad person, but I guess if even people you know do it unintentionally I shouldn't think so..

        Also your friends and bf sound awesome omg