I feel like a guy. I like to do “manly” stuff. Boxing, weightlifting, sports, etc. However, the concept of “being a man” sounds kinda far fetched to me. Like it’s an abstract concept that is impossible to achieve. Is a man supposed to be stoic or brash? Dress up in a tie and suit or wear carhartt and have a beard? Then they’re are guys who dress up or wear makeup. Gender related expressions are so constructed that I realized while I feel like a guy I wouldn’t mind if someone referred to me as they.
I want to be able to paint my nails without feeling embarrassed but then go to a boxing gym and spar. I don’t know if it’s a political rejection of masculinity but just wondering if anyone has experienced something similar.
If you, a dude, paint your nails, that is masculine, because you, a dude, are doing it.
Me too. Externally I'm 6"3 and look like a viking, but I feel such a passing nonchalance at the idea of being a "man". I like being big because people leave me alone, I enjoy having a dong because I suspect it's lower maintainence than the alternative, and i like having a deep voice because it means I'm rarely ignored. These are nice things to have, but I wouldn't by any stretch say they're who I am. Deep inside I just feel like some genderless void creature given temporary agency over a human body, and if i want to dance flowy or make myself shiny bronze jewelry to wear, I will. I've accepted that fully expressing myself and my aesthetic will forever mark me as "strange", in the eyes or some people, but frankly I think those most concerned with that kind of gendered behavior policing are the strangest ones of all, spending their lives wandering through the halls of a tacky construct made by the dead, and cursing those who have the courage to kick out a window and dance away into the night.
Relatable honestly. Don't feel embarrassed though if you want to do it just do it. I know plenty of guys that paint their nails.
My friends started doing it so I gotta follow the cool kids. I think raggedy looking nail polish looks pretty cool.
isnt they just also a generic pronoun that you can use for most people, like it doesnt really imply any sort of gender identification
You know you can just be a guy who likes whatever and uses whatever pronouns you want right?
As far as I know you can be He/They even when identifying as cis. I use He/They even though I'm non-binary
