I too was in a high school ska band. Played saxophone. Now I play guitar for bands (started when I was 13), and that's my main thing.
Being older now, my main struggle with my music is that the local scene is so intertwined, that because I'm not "in" with the right people, we tend to get really shitty shows. On top of that, our band is just a 2 piece since yeah, it's hard to find someone who vibes. I had close friends with me for a lot of my current band's run, but then they moved away and I struggled really hard to get it going again.
That said, our genre is, on a whole, more progressive than what the genres you're describing sound like. We've been fortunate to never run into anyone quite like that.
If you're really looking to get out there, unfortunately, there's not much other advice I have other than get out and try. If you run into some assholes, oh well. Don't play there again. It's tough and it sucks. It might be worth hopping on social media of your choice and looking around local music groups to find someone. That way, you can talk to them and filter out anyone you dont like before meeting.
I too was in a high school ska band. Played saxophone. Now I play guitar for bands (started when I was 13), and that's my main thing.
Being older now, my main struggle with my music is that the local scene is so intertwined, that because I'm not "in" with the right people, we tend to get really shitty shows. On top of that, our band is just a 2 piece since yeah, it's hard to find someone who vibes. I had close friends with me for a lot of my current band's run, but then they moved away and I struggled really hard to get it going again.
That said, our genre is, on a whole, more progressive than what the genres you're describing sound like. We've been fortunate to never run into anyone quite like that.
If you're really looking to get out there, unfortunately, there's not much other advice I have other than get out and try. If you run into some assholes, oh well. Don't play there again. It's tough and it sucks. It might be worth hopping on social media of your choice and looking around local music groups to find someone. That way, you can talk to them and filter out anyone you dont like before meeting.
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