I'm all ears if you have better suggestions, I'm just throwing shit at the wall. All children are annoying little shits, those who get spoiled by their parents even more so. The children could spend more of their day at the community center, that way the parent being an annoying shit wouldn't be a problem. Maybe if nobody wanted to move in with your family that would be a warning signal to make you reconsider and change something about yourself and the situation.
In another comment I thought, what if you help another couple raise their child before you have your own? That way their burden is lessened and you get valuable experience without full commitment, and it makes helping each other out a responsibility.
I'd reduce precarcity and increase leisure time. Probably a lot of home life issues would fade pretty quick right there. My ex had a bunch of hippies for family and they operated pretty similar to how you describe things as being ideal and it wasn't good for anyone. Kids got contradictory guidance and adults would fight over it. Some of the kids didn't get along with some of the other kids or adults and vice versa.
All of this 'if no one wants to live with you and your family you should do self crit' or 'under communism a family that values privacy would be suspected of abuse' is some creepy cult shit. Who cares if the person is an asshole? Should they be cut off from this communal child rearing? Wouldn't that be unfair to the child?
The way you write about your friend's family doesn't seem like problems unique to hippie families, blood siblings don't necessarily get along either and parents argue all the time. I'm trying to think of a family arrangement that doesn't have culty elements, but it's hard, and it's not like the nuclear family is an exception. When children are involved everything has extra weight.
I'm all ears if you have better suggestions, I'm just throwing shit at the wall. All children are annoying little shits, those who get spoiled by their parents even more so. The children could spend more of their day at the community center, that way the parent being an annoying shit wouldn't be a problem. Maybe if nobody wanted to move in with your family that would be a warning signal to make you reconsider and change something about yourself and the situation.
In another comment I thought, what if you help another couple raise their child before you have your own? That way their burden is lessened and you get valuable experience without full commitment, and it makes helping each other out a responsibility.
I'd reduce precarcity and increase leisure time. Probably a lot of home life issues would fade pretty quick right there. My ex had a bunch of hippies for family and they operated pretty similar to how you describe things as being ideal and it wasn't good for anyone. Kids got contradictory guidance and adults would fight over it. Some of the kids didn't get along with some of the other kids or adults and vice versa.
All of this 'if no one wants to live with you and your family you should do self crit' or 'under communism a family that values privacy would be suspected of abuse' is some creepy cult shit. Who cares if the person is an asshole? Should they be cut off from this communal child rearing? Wouldn't that be unfair to the child?
The way you write about your friend's family doesn't seem like problems unique to hippie families, blood siblings don't necessarily get along either and parents argue all the time. I'm trying to think of a family arrangement that doesn't have culty elements, but it's hard, and it's not like the nuclear family is an exception. When children are involved everything has extra weight.
There probably isn't a one size fits all solution. Kids can be victimized by pretty much anyone that wants to, they're weak and dumb.