Now that I’ve caught you with the clickbait title,
Basically every post has included some form of toxic self-hate, minus one or two mentioning exercise. While I do like being able to confront these in the first place, the purported goals and name of this community gives people who are giving the exact wrong advice far too much credibility, and the last thing these people need is a comment with the most upbears regurgitating individualistic self-help concepts at them.
If we’re going to keep this sort of community around, I suggest doing some serious research and basing it off of DBT, and integrating serious critiques of CBT style mental healthcare and improvement.
I am just some random nerd who is terrible at self-improvement at general, so I understand taking this with some serious doubt. But I just had to get this off my chest.
Thank you, WithoutFurtherBelay
"its a toxic framing to assume all weed use is the same as alcoholism."
I'm definitely not framing it like that, and i don't think the goal of the comm is to judge others, the moderator(s) seem pretty clear that it's you setting your own goals and trying to enact them.
I think weed is good, and it's helped me immensely. i'm just too addicted to it right now. Feeling like i need to smoke every hour isn't good for me personally, i'm unable to do other things i want to do. In a week, I've tapered down from near continuous use to x2 a day on weekdays and x3 on weekends and i feel better. My plan is to cut down to x1 on weekend days and other medicinal uses as needed.
I don't think you using weed the way you're doing it is bad at all, it sounds like harm reduction to me? I think it's wrong in general to assume you know what is best for someone's body. I have addict friends and i don't judge them at all. Taking drugs IS harm reduction compared to raw dogging life if you're in a bad place and not doing well mentally. That's totally okay.
I want to smoke less personally, that doesn't mean i think smoking weed is bad at all. I feel like you might be taking people wanting to change a little personally, but I at least am not judging people who don't want to "self improve". IMO Self improvement is up to the Self anyway. What's best for my body is not the best for others. Self improvement might mean just reading a little more each day for someone who wants to read more. I personally want to feel healthier so i'm taking steps to do so in my body, there's nothing wrong with that. Nothing wrong with you using weed for your health either. Just existing is difficult, so i don't think anyone should judge anyone else for how they cope (as long as they aren't harming others, of course!)
My way of coping is to work on things that make myself happier and more resilient, and those are gonna be different for other people. It's all good. I hope you don't feel judged by your weed use, like seriously, it sounds like it's really working for you and you shouldn't take anyone trying to reduce their drug use as a negative indictment on what you need. You need weed (at least right now) and that's fine. Some people are addicted to hard drugs and can't come off them, and that's also fine. Everyone deserves a happy life regardless.
I seriously hope you have a good day. I'm really sorry you're struggling with feeling suicidal. blaze up as much as you want, comrade.