I have been a straight guy for as long as I can remember. Ive had multiple relationships, plenty of enjoyable sexual encounters, and obviously seen women as a point of attraction since i was very young.

However, my long term relationship has suffered because I started having these panic attacks about that. I start obsessing over the idea that I may not be straight, as a result of some erectile dysfunction, which of course only makes that panic worse.

Lately, almost exactly after I turned 30, its like that part of my brain just shut off. I can, most of the time, become erect and do the deed (so to speak) but its like a part of my brain is missing. The part that wants it, its so quiet compared to before. I have obsessive doubts about what im feeling, all the time. I dont enjoy anything. I cant masturbate, because when I do find a fleeting grasp of arousal it is met with a wave of depression and anxiety that shuts it down.

Im going to my first therapy session today, but im in a lot of pain and just wanted a place to put it.

Edit: weed was a major trigger and ive since given it up

Edit: would also just like to thank everyone for responding, thank you to the community.

  • Quimby [any, any]
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    3 years ago

    I took/am taking effexor for my anxiety and it caused the sexual dysfunction. I didn't take any medication for the sexual dysfunction side effect. experiences definitely vary, but I think the first 2 weeks on medicine were really hard overall, but after that, I stabilized, and now I love my medication. I wish I'd done it years ago. main side effects for me are dry mouth, very vivid and sweaty dreams, and the sexual dysfunction. But my anxiety is so much better and it's totally worth it. The first 2 weeks I felt Weird™ and lightheaded and stuff, but that went away.

    Hopefully I'm answering the question?