“This isn’t anything special. It’s pretty basic”
“This isn’t hard. I can do this myself at home”
“Why are you spending money on this? It’s literally just [lists ingredients]”
Holy fucking shit shut the fuck up im trying to enjoy this fucking meal why do you tag along and waste my money and time
I don't know, it's probably better to have a bit of a good-natured moan with friends about how the pasta at this Italian restaurant is kinda shit than to smile and pretend that everything is great just to observe polite bourgeois table manners. So long as you don't become a Karen and take it out on the staff, of course.
how exactly are table manners bourgeois
There's actually a fair bit of theory on this. For example, Bourdieu's book Distinction often drifts into asides about table manners and other related habits as things that signal and situate the classes. It isn't that all table manners are bourgeois, but that what are table manners tends to be different according to one's position in the social order.
Yay new book rec
If you don't think table manners are bourgeois then you never really learned table manners
The elbows on the table thing, a more guarded way of eating, is associated with the lower class. From sailors to factory workers to the the homeless to miners to prisoners etc etc, who usually ate in cramped spaces shoulder to shoulder and/or are guarding their food would carry on this habit outside of said environment and the bourgeoisie didn't want to be associated with such behaviour.