If you are interested in a person you assume to be cis, and they have had bottom surgery so the only real way to tell if they are trans is if they tell you, and finding that out makes you decide against having sex with them, you're a transphobe.

If you are interested in a person who is trans but has not had bottom surgery, and that makes you not want to have sex with them because you are not attracted to penises/vaginas/etc., you are not a transphobic

  • NewAccountWhoDis [she/her]
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    2 years ago

    The way I view it is that many of those traditional excuses used would be acceptable excuses normally, if not for the very clear and often very poorly hidden real reasons behind them being based in transphobic beliefs.

    A person who claims to care about having kids is a reasonable excuse, but then they will go and hook up with people and use condoms and other forms of protection outside of that. Clearly then this excuse isn't actually truthful.

    If they actually showed honesty and practiced their claims, there should be no issue had with them then.

    Edit: Also another point, I think that's a pretty major difference in mindset between "I haven't been attracted to X yet" and the "I will never be" mindset. This also happens with race discussions. While the first can still have issues with bigotry, it certainly at least is not as heavily based into it as the second one is. Anyone who can claim that they never will be is a person who is not open to it primarily for reasons outside of actual attraction, else they will be willing to concede the possibility that if they did find someone attractive it would be okay.

        • AOCapitulator [they/them]
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          2 years ago

          Its honestly kind of immoral to have kids instead of adopting, barring some possibility of reasonable reasons for why they have to be biologically yours, just adopt a fucking kid, help a life that already exists instead of dooming one that doesn't to existence

          Note: this is not an anti-natalist argument, just think way more people should think about adopting first before conceiving