Yes and no. (I have ASD and ADHD.) There's a few facets of myself that have always been extremely concrete, like I just woke up one morning and realized I was gay but in retrospect I'd been clearly super gay my whole life (not just like stereotype things but just clearly always thought that girls were neat in a way I'd never felt about boys), or I realized I had autism and it felt really obvious, and I realize I had adhd and that felt even more obvious than asd had.
But then other things are definitely amorphous, change with context, or change over time. I've done my best just to accept that one of the only constants about me is that I don't have a super firm sense of self outside of a few key facts and values and the fact that everything else is subject to change with no notice. I can wake up one day and suddenly stop having hobby or interest I've had for 5, 10, 15 years with no plans to go back to it. That's okay, if it sounds like a good time to me it'll still be there in some form or another. I just try to do what makes me happy in the moment, and I keep a little list of stuff I like to help me remember in case I do want to go back to it.
Yes and no. (I have ASD and ADHD.) There's a few facets of myself that have always been extremely concrete, like I just woke up one morning and realized I was gay but in retrospect I'd been clearly super gay my whole life (not just like stereotype things but just clearly always thought that girls were neat in a way I'd never felt about boys), or I realized I had autism and it felt really obvious, and I realize I had adhd and that felt even more obvious than asd had.
But then other things are definitely amorphous, change with context, or change over time. I've done my best just to accept that one of the only constants about me is that I don't have a super firm sense of self outside of a few key facts and values and the fact that everything else is subject to change with no notice. I can wake up one day and suddenly stop having hobby or interest I've had for 5, 10, 15 years with no plans to go back to it. That's okay, if it sounds like a good time to me it'll still be there in some form or another. I just try to do what makes me happy in the moment, and I keep a little list of stuff I like to help me remember in case I do want to go back to it.