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  • ty comrade rosa-salute

    Yeah it's a fairly common among autistic people in particular, since sensory sensitivities can make entire categories of foods a no-go. The categories vary wildly from person to person, but vegetables and even fruits are cited frequently as unsafe-foods due to texture, strong taste, and/or high variation between different . It can be pretty severe too, my own sensory sensitivities aren't that bad compared to many of my autistic comrades, but getting a surprise chunk of mushroom in something has put me off my appetite for multiple meals in a row before, and sometimes a cucumber being in something like salad imparts enough lingering bitter flavor to ruin the whole thing even if I pick it out. It's super annoying to deal with as-is, and that's before heaping on the way some people love to openly mock or mess with you for being "picky" or "childish" or whatever.



  • Having a sort of ritual in the morning always helps me and is one of my measure of if I'm doing well mentally.

    Mine always includes some sort of auditory stimulus — usually music or a podcast. I leave my headphones on my nightstand because the extra stimulus of music makes it substantially easier to get out of bed, and I can usually give myself a few songs to will myself to get up. (Telling myself "okay, I'm waiting for the next one" a few times isn't a problem since songs are only a few minutes.)

    If I can accomplish one task that is decidedly For Me before I go to work, I get momentum from the sense of accomplishment that's easy to turn into a good day. For me that's usually some sort of putter cleaning, making an enjoyable breakfast, some small hobby related stuff, or even sitting down and watching an educational video on a topic I've been interested in. When I'm at my best I do this while I'm waiting for my meds to kick in.

    Btw, you should see if your doctor will let you email in your prescription refill requests — mine does and it's a godsend. You can even automate it so an email automatically gets sent each month when you're due without you having to remember or Do The Task.







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    Where's the logic behind that though? It's got less addiction potential than caffeine, the only difference is caffeine is socially normalized and amphetamine has been demonized by the war on drugs. If there's no consistency it's just perpetuating harmful stigma against disabled comrades based on vibes.

    Also sorry, I thought you were one of the moderators in this decision, so maybe policy discussion between us isn't helpful or necessary.


  • crime [she/her, any]toDrugsModeration Changes
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    2 days ago

    same, the number of times I've forgotten to take my "highly addictive" schedule 2 medication that literally makes my brain work is especially astounding when you consider how as a demographic ADHDers are some of the most likely to develop addictions to anything in pursuit of a single crumb of dopamine for our busted neurotransmitters

    but I never forget caffeine and if I do my body punishes me



  • crime [she/her, any]toDrugsModeration Changes
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    2 days ago

    Gotcha, thank you for taking the time to clarify.

    This seems like a good direction overall for helping to make Hexbear a good place for comrades in recovery, though I'm ngl I'd personally be super disappointed if there's an expectation to not be able to talk about medication in a medication context, especially for stimulants since there's already a massive problem with them being stigmatized which leads to a lot of discrimination and material harm to comrades with ADHD or narcolepsy. Would really suck to have that perpetuated here, especially since it's less harmful of a stimulant than caffeine by most metrics.


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    2 days ago

    Genuine question (i.e. coming from a place of autism, not trying to be a shitheel about the policy change): Which drugs are considered drugs for this? Caffeine? Nicotine? Alcohol? Weed? Amphetamines (in or outside of the context of ADHD or narcolepsy medication)? Opioids (in or outside of the context of their use as painkillers)? Psychadelics (in or outside of the context of theraputic uses)? OTC medications (with or without abuse potential)?








  • I could've written your first section substituting all of your masculine terms for their feminine equivalent (I'm an autistic afab butch lesbian). I halfway vibe with "autigender" as a concept because at the end of the day gender is a social category and my autistic ass can't parse the social aspects well enough to perform "woman" properly.

    To that end, the only dysphoria I ever get is social dysphoria — it's been worse when I've lived in regressive, patriarchal small rural towns in the US, and less bad in cities where there are more people who perform their gender similar to how I perform mine. My gender has always been more "lesbian" than "woman" (in the same way that when I was a kid my gender was more "tomboy" than "girl") and when I'm in places where there's less social understanding of that, I get shoved into the "woman" social category which has a whole lot more assumptions about it.

    Not much else to say other than you're not alone in those feelings