I'm curious to creck some of the new stuff out but it all looks so not Star Trek
By New Trek I mean Discovery, Picard, Strange New World and Lower Decks
Wow that's a lot of series.
I like the optimism of Star Trek and apparently a lot of New Trek kind of abandons that? 
I cannot tell you how much I miss this kind of drama. Nobody yelling, no quippy bullshit, no ridiculous strawman to make sure the audience can understand who is in the right or wrong even if they've had a lobotomy. It's understandable how both characters came to this disagreement. It's tense but the professionalism remains. They're both even surprisingly emotionally honest, even vulnerable, at the end and communicate it clearly and maturely.
What happened to this? This wasn't unique to Star Trek back in the day.
I blame the TNG movies honestly, while some bits and pieces are good they ruined the series and if you haven't already you should read Michael Piller's book about writing for Insurrection, he basically exposes Patrick Stewart for being a(the?) major intellectual drive behind turning the movie away from the past TV experiences.
In general though I don't watch western TV much at all, maybe a dozen shows throughout my whole life so I can't say, but I definitely think much of TNG's personal relationships would be seen as boring and too professional these days.