I don't consider myself particularly interesting, but I would say my interests are vastly different from the average guy on dating apps

I don't know how to say this without sounding pretentious, but I prefer intellectual conversation over nights at the bar or whatever. I just want to be able to share the thoughts I have floating around my head with someone, ya know? When I'm not on hexbear.net, I play guitar, draw, write and enjoy analyzing different types of media and digging into the meaning of stuff

Stream of consciousness slop, I know, but I'm super high and my thoughts are firing off. Can anyone relate or see where I'm coming from?

  • stigsbandit34z [they/them]
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    3 years ago

    That's another thing: It genuinely feels like dating apps are an extension of the a la carte economy

    All the streaming services, healthcare, phone plans, and now relationships. The most universal part of the human experience commodified? Cool!

    • LeninWalksTheWorld [any]
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      3 years ago

      this is absolutely correct. Online dating loses the element of spontaneity that sanctifies a romantic relationship with the "chance of fate." The event of falling in love with another person is forces you to reevaluate your whole life, even retroactively, to explain your coming together with this person. That can be a traumatic process for a lot of people (including me btw) so people would rather just pick from a menu.

      We are almost returning to pre-romantic times where person love is a matter you put in the hands of other. Except now instead of it being your dad or uncle deciding who to marry it's "dating agencies" and apps who select people on a very similar basis (connections and wealth). What these apps offer is is precise love, love without messy business of falling in love, which are what makes up normal unpredictable romantic encounters. It's sad, I think a lot of people are afraid of these encounters nowadays because they can hurt a lot but they can also be so nice and we are losing it. It's like most of the treat-addicted West: we want the pleasures without having to pay any costs. Soda without sugar, beer without alcohol, sex without love.