stigsbandit34z [they/them] to neurodiverse • 3 years ago

So are you not supposed to "be yourself" on dating apps?

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So are you not supposed to "be yourself" on dating apps?

stigsbandit34z [they/them] to neurodiverse • 3 years ago

I don't consider myself particularly interesting, but I would say my interests are vastly different from the average guy on dating apps

I don't know how to say this without sounding pretentious, but I prefer intellectual conversation over nights at the bar or whatever. I just want to be able to share the thoughts I have floating around my head with someone, ya know? When I'm not on hexbear.net, I play guitar, draw, write and enjoy analyzing different types of media and digging into the meaning of stuff

Stream of consciousness slop, I know, but I'm super high and my thoughts are firing off. Can anyone relate or see where I'm coming from?

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swampfox [none/use name]
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3 years ago
There was somewhat of a "golden age" of dating apps before they figured out how to "properly" calibrate the monetization of them.

That ship sailed in like 2014 and now they are largely vectors of psychic damage.

Get involved in a handful of routine social groups and you'll meet people organically.

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