This might be too specific, but I'm 25 and just moved to a new city, reconnected with a few old friends, and it is extremely awkward being around them as a "fifth wheel" (they both have long-term gfs) and it feels like I'm just killing the vibe of the double dates as a single man

Anyone else ever find themselves in a similar situation? It sucks

Imo, you're really just kinda boned if you have no way to establish a sense of community later in life (in the United States at least). I lost my religious faith in high school and really wish I wouldn't have.

  • Yurt_Owl
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    3 years ago

    First of all if they didn't want to hang out with you they wouldn't so I imagine they definitely like having you around.

    Second double dates are just as awkward as being a third wheel in my experience. Maybe I'm just awkward idk?

    Third i know like 1 person who's still with their high school partner everyone else i know broke up not long after leaving high school. My high school relationship lasted all of a few weeks after leaving school haha.

    I was in a similar position to you. The only way i got out of that negative way of thinking was trying online dating, realising i absolutely hated dating and would rather just do my own thing and enjoying doing my own stuff again. Then ironically finding a boyfriend who was literally right under my nose like a few weeks later lol.

    All i can say is please dont waste your younger years worrying about this stuff and letting it get you down. I know its easier said than done but i wasted what 7+ years being chronically miserable about it and looking back i really should have spent that time enjoying myself a lot more.