This isn't life. I cannot speak to people when I need to.
I cannot be polite the way I usually would be. Months ago there was kids who didn't have enough money to pay in a supermarket and I couldn't say I'll pay for them. I knew if I tried to pantomime this shit, I'd make the already awkward stressful situation of theirs worse. There's been so many awkward cases where I couldn't help someone because I couldn't say I would, and if I randomly approached them and grabbed their stuff I'd freak them out. I had old ladies ask for help, but no longer want it if I tried to communicate through body language, because I don't speak the local language.
I am incapable of learning a language. I'm one of those people, yes. I learned useful phrases before moving here, including local slang for welcoms and farewells, but anything remotely off script and I'm lost. Learning a language is extremely hard. Even for children. Bilingual people struggle (I know very well: I am bilingual, but one of my languages sounds machine translated and lacks vocabulary, so I cannot even express myself), children struggle, and learning a language as an adult may be impossible - for me it is. I give up. I don't even want to be here. I never did.
People act like immigrants are there out of choice. Fuck, I'm very much not. The only "alternative" I had was going homeless - when the only other option was to lose one of fundamental necessities, it's not a real choice.
I don't have anywhere to go. I only have my best friend, but she lives in a really tiny apartment, and I had friends lose housing when they'd let newly homeless friend sleep on their couch, because landlords are literally fucking evil. I don't want to inconvinience her, yet alone lead to potentially her losing housing.
I also cannot find a new job. I've desperately been trying to, but no one wants me. All the companies are going through layoffs. No one wants to invest into a worker anymore. The only time they post Junior positions is to offer an unreasonably low pay - they still require shitload of experience, frequently very niche. Many jobs I feel like I'd have a super easy time doing don't allow people without experience in at all.
I need to be able to afford my monthly medical debt repayment and to live alone. No, I am not spoiled. I get suicidal from living with strangers and develop such massive anxiety I am literally incapable of existing. I am very introverted and have health problems. I suffered injuries from living with other people, because I couldn't adjust the housing to my needs (not wants, mind you - needs), e.g. I got skin burns and would be unable to breathe (I have extremely sensitive skin and allergies).
I really need to move. I am waiting for this Friday to know how much acceleration I can do. Thankfully it should be warm in 3+ months (this is my resignation period btw for both work and housing), so I could maybe even get a tent and sleep in the wild if I cannot find housing.
Man I don’t know your particular situation, but I recently immigrated from an European country to Belgium. I know there are better places, even in Europe, but so far it’s the best place I’ve ever lived.
If you don’t live in Wallonia or Brussels, you can indeed p much live only speaking English. And it shouldn’t be too hard to find an English speaking job in Ghent or Antwerpen.
Biking infrastructure is pretty good as well. Not Netherlands or Denmark good, but better than most of the world I’d assume.
Maybe it’d be worth it for you to move with any job you can find, then look for a better job once you’re there and meet people. Meeting people is the best way to find a job, referrals and what not. Depending on what you do I can refer you to my workplace lmao
But to find a job in general, apply to anything that seems remotely interesting to you. Don’t give a fuck about the requirements. Make a good CV with all the tricks for AI etc. (read on this online). And send at least 30 applications a day. I bet you’d find something in a month or two.
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I’d say look in all websites. Indeed, LinkedIn, Jobat etc. look at them everyday, set up alerts to receive new job postings on your email. And apply MORE! Really aim for at least 30 a day. More is better, but don’t do less. And really, don’t mind the requirements at all. You want to send as many applications as possible. If they say you have to speak English, Dutch, French, Greek and Sanskrit, just apply. Find some stores on google maps you like and send them an email, or call even. See if Inditex or something like that is hiring for Belgium at the moment. But just apply to at least 30 places a day. That should be the goal.
Ah also, just lie? You can embellish your CV and interviews to cater to the job. Fuck them yknow? Just get that bag!!
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Yup! That is exactly what I did. It took me 2 months, but I was lucky to have time and I rejected a couple of jobs before I found one that I liked more. But I sent over a thousand applications. I had five or more interviews. A couple I went to the final stage to just be rejected. But you gotta keep trying. You won’t find a job unless you keep trying. But if you will if you do.
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The first interview I had was for a sales job. In my CV I put that my first job ever was as a salesperson, and then as an “account manager”. I lied. I never worked as a salesperson. I got that job, but I rejected it.
The job I ended up getting is in support, but I’m building a help center. I lied that I had ample experience writing help articles. I never did that.
Seriously, just lie. And then do some research. And lie more. Just make the lie believable.