It really depends on where you are. This would fly in Atlanta but not Seattle. It'd fly in Italy, but not Norway. It'd fly more often for a pretty charming person. It'd fly more often at a bar or a party than at a cafe. If she says "I'm waiting for a friend," that means "don't sit here." It's unfortunately not as simple as not/appropriate.
This kinda shit is why I'm so seemingly anti-social. I have ASD and the fact that there's all these unwritten rules about social interactions is absurd, I have no idea how neurotypical folks handle this :blob-no-thoughts: I sure as hell can't manage it.
As a nuerotypical, some of us are better at it than others. I personally find it tiring and hang out with a lot of weirdos specifically so I can avoid this sort of thing.
It really depends on where you are. This would fly in Atlanta but not Seattle. It'd fly in Italy, but not Norway. It'd fly more often for a pretty charming person. It'd fly more often at a bar or a party than at a cafe. If she says "I'm waiting for a friend," that means "don't sit here." It's unfortunately not as simple as not/appropriate.
This kinda shit is why I'm so seemingly anti-social. I have ASD and the fact that there's all these unwritten rules about social interactions is absurd, I have no idea how neurotypical folks handle this :blob-no-thoughts: I sure as hell can't manage it.
Unrelated but I love your name. People hear have such excellent handles.
As a nuerotypical, some of us are better at it than others. I personally find it tiring and hang out with a lot of weirdos specifically so I can avoid this sort of thing.
It might fly in Norway actually, because our inability to say no sometimes overrides our compulsion to be anti social lmao
That's the issue though "can I join you" is only appropriate if the recipient has the capacity to say no and if the question itself isn't bothersome