I suppose that's one way of looking at it. The other way was that the relationship was always performative and extractive and only existed when it benefitted the asshat.
Can't say either way without having been there, but if any of my friends shut me out of sympathy at my lowest time, I'd consider them a pretender.
I suppose you're right in some regards. It certainly became that way towards the end. If it was truly performative from the beginning, they managed to fool a lot of very perceptive people.
This seems like a kinda toxic way of looking at it. That they eventually became a shithead doesn't invalidate the times that were good.
I suppose that's one way of looking at it. The other way was that the relationship was always performative and extractive and only existed when it benefitted the asshat.
Can't say either way without having been there, but if any of my friends shut me out of sympathy at my lowest time, I'd consider them a pretender.
I suppose you're right in some regards. It certainly became that way towards the end. If it was truly performative from the beginning, they managed to fool a lot of very perceptive people.