Edit: Okay, wow. if the statement from a woman of “we owe you nothing” immediately sets you off emotionally, I would really encourage you to think through why that might be.
A more systemic phrasing could have been “we owe the patriarchy nothing”. I changed it to that for a second before realizing, again, that it was fine. A guy that has worked through internalized patriarchy around this will understand it’s not about them.
Patriarchy on the whole conditions men towards having a sense of entitlement towards women’s bodies, time, attention, labor, etc. It also conditions women that they should feel obligated to provide this without setting boundaries or expecting reciprocal solidarity.
Remember, we literally all have degrees of internalized bigotry, misogyny, racism, transphobia, etc because these are systemic issues. Our responsibility to ourselves and our comrades is to work through that. You are not a bad person for finding those brainworms in yourself, only if you refuse to do the work to address them.
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Yeah but they're paid and trained to do this? I feel like this is a major difference that feels disingenuous to leave out.
This 100%. They’re being paid for their time and are opting into that role.
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:downbear:
Someone agrees with me on the site.
3 or was 2 up bears can’t deny I am right to some people here.
that or you have an alt
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You shouldn’t assume women will do that work. At no point does this say you should get a therapist, although that is a good idea if you can afford it or find community-funded group therapy.
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