Edit: Okay, wow. if the statement from a woman of “we owe you nothing” immediately sets you off emotionally, I would really encourage you to think through why that might be.
A more systemic phrasing could have been “we owe the patriarchy nothing”. I changed it to that for a second before realizing, again, that it was fine. A guy that has worked through internalized patriarchy around this will understand it’s not about them.
Patriarchy on the whole conditions men towards having a sense of entitlement towards women’s bodies, time, attention, labor, etc. It also conditions women that they should feel obligated to provide this without setting boundaries or expecting reciprocal solidarity.
Remember, we literally all have degrees of internalized bigotry, misogyny, racism, transphobia, etc because these are systemic issues. Our responsibility to ourselves and our comrades is to work through that. You are not a bad person for finding those brainworms in yourself, only if you refuse to do the work to address them.
Getting some real "'Defunding the police' is bad because I need to invoke some though to understand the slogan" from this thread. Like, it's okay to take a second to listen, gang.
no, defunding the police is unequivocally good and the slogan describes precisely what needs to happen. not really the same as misusing "emotional labor" to describe the experience of other people daring to be mentally ill near you.
Same, I'm getting "b-but I don't have white privilege!" vibes.
Learn to do self crit, people.