Honestly I don't meet the Yanks all that much regularly. I have a couple friends who I see semi frequently, and they're obviously ok. The Americans here at Hexbear are super cool. Since Covid lockdowns are breaking, I've been seeing more of them randomly. And in the conversations with them, I'm seeing a lot of mean-ish comments along the lines of "haha, you did something I'm not used to".
For example, in the past month, I've gotten called out for:
- asking a guy at a literal commie beer event if he was a "comrade"
- using the metric system
- moving away from a boring conversation topic by asking a person what their job is, without a good convo transition
- saying colonisation changed African countries
- saying conservatives care more about aesthetics
- joking that I pray to Lenin every morning (thank you lib for pointing out that this isn't what socialism is)
Honestly sarcasm is good and fine with friends. Like, if the love is clearly there, then ya tease me a bit. Dunno, but it feels like these people treat conversations as a competitive sport. Oh ya, these people are all massive libs as well.
This is just an example of that 'dunking' behavior. As is my own comment here, after all, if it's all just anecdotes, who is to say your experience isn't insufficiently broad and biased?
I will say that in my experience, teasing and ball busting is a huge part of white male culture throughout America, and while there is an element of it in all American male friendships, I definitely don't see it throughout the various PoC communities or among women. However, because white male culture is one of the dominant strains of 'normal' behavior, it's definitely commonplace.