Assuming you're in the US there aren't any recreational places to go to in most places. If there are, most people don't have the time nor the money since it'll probably cost money, be it a fee or a 20 minute car ride. I think that Bowling Alone book called them third spaces with the other two being work and home. Last month I actually met someone on one of my walks but it's not feasible to meet them again because everyone just goes straight to their car after leaving home to go to work for most of the day.
If you're in any western/capitalist country I'm guessing most of that still applies. When I read a lot during one my depressive phases one of the best ways to make friends is through repeated, spontaneous encounters which is just not possible to do in my experience.
Last month I actually met someone on one of my walks but it’s not feasible to meet them again because everyone just goes straight to their car after leaving home to go to work for most of the day.
This is why I'm so skeptic of that other guy's comments about putting yourself out there, there are limited contexts were spontaneous meetings are encouraged, outside of those, people think that you want something from them. I've actually talked to random people on the street a couple of times, even striked some conversations, but people aren't just going to open up to you just cause there was some interesting sight or sound and you briefly bonded over it. I also probably suck at it, I dunno. I just grew a bit sad just thinking about it, actually.
Assuming you're in the US there aren't any recreational places to go to in most places. If there are, most people don't have the time nor the money since it'll probably cost money, be it a fee or a 20 minute car ride. I think that Bowling Alone book called them third spaces with the other two being work and home. Last month I actually met someone on one of my walks but it's not feasible to meet them again because everyone just goes straight to their car after leaving home to go to work for most of the day.
If you're in any western/capitalist country I'm guessing most of that still applies. When I read a lot during one my depressive phases one of the best ways to make friends is through repeated, spontaneous encounters which is just not possible to do in my experience.
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This is why I'm so skeptic of that other guy's comments about putting yourself out there, there are limited contexts were spontaneous meetings are encouraged, outside of those, people think that you want something from them. I've actually talked to random people on the street a couple of times, even striked some conversations, but people aren't just going to open up to you just cause there was some interesting sight or sound and you briefly bonded over it. I also probably suck at it, I dunno. I just grew a bit sad just thinking about it, actually.