If stage fright is the fear that one has, when performing

Then inbox fright is the fear/dread I have, when it comes to getting replies or reactions, after I post...

Especially if its related to political content

You never know if you're going to pulled into a struggle session over something and sent nasty messages, overall

  • Birdie@thelemmy.club
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    9 months ago

    It doesn't bother me at all. I made a comment, someone replied, there is no need at all to continue the discussion unless I want to.

  • CommunistBear [he/him]
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    9 months ago

    On here, replies and reactions make me excited. Generally speaking we're all comrades of some degree here. On a cesspool like reddit-logo I often get dread over the chuds who could potentially harass me

  • Aquilae [he/him, they/them]
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    9 months ago

    I kinda felt this way when I used reddit.

    Less so on Lemmy, and pretty much never on Hexbear.

  • oscardejarjayes [comrade/them]
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    9 months ago

    Maybe on a messaging platform with IRL people, but never on somewhere like Lemmy. If anything, I really enjoy seeing that number go up! 59 unreads right now (I never check the box, the only way they go is replies).

  • PhobosAnomaly@feddit.uk
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    9 months ago

    If I've posted once in a day, and it's gone against the grain in a particularly emotive topic discussion - then yeah I can't say I've not said "oh here we fucking go" when I've seen the little badge with a number on it that's not 1, because that's usually when I've posted a YouTube link and the bot picks it up.

    In fairness, 70% of it is a valid dissenting opinion to my own and I've got the opportunity to learn from someone else's view, even if I'm still not convinced.

    29% of the negative comments are just fannies just picking up a point which isn't entirely clear and then interprets it in a way that's logically and factually disingenuous to prove some sort of point, and I can count on one hand in the last thirty years or so the number of times that I've rattled someone's cage to the point where they feel the need to PM me death threats or offer physical violence - by that point I've already figured out that they're either deeply hurting and it's manifesting itself in that way, or they're deeply unwell and it's well outside my skillset to help.

    Lemmy overall is much more open to debate than Reddit, and the downvote button is used less of a "disagree" or "fuck you" button than it was on the latter site.

  • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠@midwest.social
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    9 months ago

    Only in my email inbox, and it's not so much "fright" as "anxiety".

    Not on discussion fora like lemmy and reddit, the stakes are much lower.

  • iknt@lemmy.ml
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    9 months ago

    You can hide the notification icon, and check unread in https://lemmy.ml/inbox when you want to.

    Ublock Origin Dashboard -> My filters, add: lemmy.ml##a[href="/inbox"].nav-link

  • rawrthundercats@lemmy.ml
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    9 months ago

    I have this with checking emails at work. I hate when I have a new email and don't know what it's about to say.

  • ShimmeringKoi [comrade/them]
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    9 months ago

    I've tried to counter this by cultivating a Russian roulette mindset when opening my replies. Fuck it, open it, we'll all find out

  • Christian@lemmy.ml
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    9 months ago

    Yes.

    I think I have a mental disorder where if people online are angry at me I actually start introspecting a lot rather than blowing it off. Sometimes I have something I want to say anyway and emotionally prepare to eat it.