Harsh but true. Victims of SA (which is a lot of women damn) especially have every right to vent their frustrations without being policed. I guess being socialized as men stunts our ability to fully empathize with the struggle and sheer magnitude of justified fear women have of men. SA being so common in media doesn't help, desensitizing one to the actual horrific consequences and trauma that comes from it.
It didn't even click for me till I read the autobiography of a SA victim. The event itself was described in terrible detail but what got me wasn't that. It was the trauma she described immediately after as well as its lingering effects decades after the assault happened that finally led me to comprehend a fraction of the shit women go through.
So I guess men need to listen more and say less on why women are rightfully afraid of them. Edit: and not take it personally.
Harsh but true. Victims of SA (which is a lot of women damn) especially have every right to vent their frustrations without being policed. I guess being socialized as men stunts our ability to fully empathize with the struggle and sheer magnitude of justified fear women have of men. SA being so common in media doesn't help, desensitizing one to the actual horrific consequences and trauma that comes from it.
It didn't even click for me till I read the autobiography of a SA victim. The event itself was described in terrible detail but what got me wasn't that. It was the trauma she described immediately after as well as its lingering effects decades after the assault happened that finally led me to comprehend a fraction of the shit women go through.
So I guess men need to listen more and say less on why women are rightfully afraid of them. Edit: and not take it personally.
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My bf is honestly an extremely awesome guy that understands this. Which is why the title is a bit tongue in cheek
It's great you found him then. I wish you both well.