This sounds like a distinction the German language was meant to solve.
My version is:
- You should have a podcast - I would subscribe.
- You should have a podcast - there are others who would love this, but I am not your target audience.
- You should have a podcast - by which I mean shut the fuck up.
Damn, looks like I speak German better than I thought, I understood every single one of those words!
Ideally people would just communicate these sentiments? Shocking idea I know ✨
For example, when I say I "added something to my backlog" for instance, it means I actually literally did. It's no guarantee that the book(Hi Unjust Depths, I plan on you) or w/e won't end up lost in the backlog for however long, but it means I had enough interest to want to keep the thing around.
For me, when it comes to someone talking to or messaging me I will almost never not reply, and if I stop replying it means I think the conversation is over. But normals gonna normal Ig!
Yeah I will say though not everyone who fucks up about this is NT like I know ND people with social phobia who dont want to say no. Or ADHD means they just see it and forget lol. But yes I agree people communicating these things would be a big help.
I don't see why they don't communicate these things, like just be honest??
Idk ive run into a lot of difficulties with ND to ND miscommunication along these lines so its weird. Like ideally I agree with you but I think some people struggle with it.
Doesn't really surprise me either tbh, there are ND people that do social shenanigans akin to those typically associated with NTs. I had hoped ages ago that other autistic people would be easier to get on with, but uh
Why bother? They can just remind you no matter what and it's not like you'll give up on their service, where else can you even go? No lose situation on their part. Eat your hamburgers 😈
This is about social interactions and usually I'm the one who doesnt know which of these three things it means.
I'm starting to think people on the internet believe neurotypical means person with complete control over their brain chemistry. Nobody has full understanding of what they put in their long-term memory, what associations will remind them, and what's in their working memory. That means 2 and 3 have no distinction in the moment. 1 on the other hand requires that it look the same as 2 and 3, that's the point, otherwise they'd be sharing their thoughts.
People should REAAAALLLY learn to say that its 1 lmao. Their fear of hurting feelings is causing more harm then good. The "not interested" would sting in the moment (I actually hate hearing that lmao) but its better than not being sure.
As for 2 and 3, for a lot of people it might be the same in the moment. But some people get VERY offended if you remind them that you are waiting on a response when they were planning on responding later and felt they didnt need a reminder lol. So for the person on the other end (me) it can still suck ass.
I don't know what your experience is but I feel quite confident in saying the 1st type is mainly discourteous arseholes who genuinely don't give enough of a shit about you to respond. For things that matter, it's not a politeness issue, it's a human decency issue.
As for people getting offended, people get offended for all sorts of things. In that specific instance, you can tell them if they expect that you know them well enough to not assume they forgot, they ought to know you well enough to reply indicating they'll answer properly later. If that feels to combative you could say kindly RSVP. It'd feel like youtubers saying like and subscribe, but at least it'd i crease their chance of formulating some immediate response.