Sorry, that is how language words, what words mean is determined by a process beyond just 'what you think they mean'. Its a gendered insult as it exists in the English language, and consequently a homophobic one (although not a slur to my ear). However if you keep using it as you do, and convince others to, eventually you could be part of changing that meaning. I think its really funny to call women cocksuckers and yeah you could make that more of a thing
I mean idk but I feel like if it were a slur it would feel more like something you would yell at a gay person specifically but its really more a thing you call any guy. Its homophobic because the premise is that having gay sex makes you lesser but its not like a thing you'd yell at a gay person specifically you see? Its a fine line I suppose but key in this case because I think if someone calls someone else a homophobic slur, that is a homophobic person, but I do not immediately assume that hearing someone call someone cocksucker. Similar to how it doesn't make you a woman-hater to call someone a pussy, but its a bit of a sexist term in itself
I'm again making a general statement when I say "its a thing you call any guy", not you specifically but 'one'. When I say that I am defining it, and insisting that you take that definition into account when you use it since that is what everyone will understand it as. Your usage will be widely interpreted based on the definition everyone here is also insisting on, the gendered one, because we are correct and you are incorrect, technically speaking. But its not absolute, you could like. Get all of your friends to accept that you don't mean it in a gendered way and you all start calling women cocksuckers as well, and that's how language evolves
The real problematic bit though I think is the negative framing, that's what makes it homophobic in the first place. I think whatever gender is doing it, its great to suck cock, to gobble dicks deepthroat style and slurp down cum etc, so I might be inclined to use cocksucker as a positive term, of respect or endearment. But then, I would have to be careful using it that way, gotta make sure I am understood because it has that preexisting connotation as an insult. But if you aren't terribly concerned about that you could be the trailblazer there also, calling women and men and whoever cocksuckers willy-nilly, but as a compliment, "hey cocksucker great job out there on the field today"
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Sorry, that is how language words, what words mean is determined by a process beyond just 'what you think they mean'. Its a gendered insult as it exists in the English language, and consequently a homophobic one (although not a slur to my ear). However if you keep using it as you do, and convince others to, eventually you could be part of changing that meaning. I think its really funny to call women cocksuckers and yeah you could make that more of a thing
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I mean idk but I feel like if it were a slur it would feel more like something you would yell at a gay person specifically but its really more a thing you call any guy. Its homophobic because the premise is that having gay sex makes you lesser but its not like a thing you'd yell at a gay person specifically you see? Its a fine line I suppose but key in this case because I think if someone calls someone else a homophobic slur, that is a homophobic person, but I do not immediately assume that hearing someone call someone cocksucker. Similar to how it doesn't make you a woman-hater to call someone a pussy, but its a bit of a sexist term in itself
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I'm again making a general statement when I say "its a thing you call any guy", not you specifically but 'one'. When I say that I am defining it, and insisting that you take that definition into account when you use it since that is what everyone will understand it as. Your usage will be widely interpreted based on the definition everyone here is also insisting on, the gendered one, because we are correct and you are incorrect, technically speaking. But its not absolute, you could like. Get all of your friends to accept that you don't mean it in a gendered way and you all start calling women cocksuckers as well, and that's how language evolves
The real problematic bit though I think is the negative framing, that's what makes it homophobic in the first place. I think whatever gender is doing it, its great to suck cock, to gobble dicks deepthroat style and slurp down cum etc, so I might be inclined to use cocksucker as a positive term, of respect or endearment. But then, I would have to be careful using it that way, gotta make sure I am understood because it has that preexisting connotation as an insult. But if you aren't terribly concerned about that you could be the trailblazer there also, calling women and men and whoever cocksuckers willy-nilly, but as a compliment, "hey cocksucker great job out there on the field today"