that's my thinking as well. i also wanna stress (to OP mainly, ofc) that this isn't coming from a place of disdain for the partner or anything; as i said in another comment i am the financially irresponsible partner in my relationship and i find it really helpful to have a frank discussion about money stuff, particularly when i fuck up
Same here. And I find that over time, I’ve relied less and less on guilt to enforce my financial habits and it’s made me a much more reliable spender. At one point I would have said that guilt is a good motivator when you have a baby who will starve if you buy too many lotto tickets, but honestly I’ve come around on even that. Shame and guilt were a big part of the addictive spiral for me in general and I feel like my parents would have been able to take much better care of me if they could have talked openly about their issues with money and addiction
it sounds like you've made a lot of progress on the issue! i'm genuinely happy for you, comrade. :soviet-heart: i hope OP's SO can make a similar improvement. :)
that's my thinking as well. i also wanna stress (to OP mainly, ofc) that this isn't coming from a place of disdain for the partner or anything; as i said in another comment i am the financially irresponsible partner in my relationship and i find it really helpful to have a frank discussion about money stuff, particularly when i fuck up
communication's the cornerstone and all that
Same here. And I find that over time, I’ve relied less and less on guilt to enforce my financial habits and it’s made me a much more reliable spender. At one point I would have said that guilt is a good motivator when you have a baby who will starve if you buy too many lotto tickets, but honestly I’ve come around on even that. Shame and guilt were a big part of the addictive spiral for me in general and I feel like my parents would have been able to take much better care of me if they could have talked openly about their issues with money and addiction
it sounds like you've made a lot of progress on the issue! i'm genuinely happy for you, comrade. :soviet-heart: i hope OP's SO can make a similar improvement. :)