I don't know you personally so take what I say with a pinch of salt but they dont sound malicious. Stupid? Yes but i feel like this situation would be playing out very differently if there were genuine malicious intentions.
If you decide to have a bit of control over their finances in future dont consider it creepy if its consenual. Its only creepy when its forceful with ulterior motives.
Rebuilding trust is going to take time but it will help by understanding the thought process behind the actions. Spending ridiculous sums of money on takeout is what I do when im really struggling with my mental and need a dopamine hit quick. There were days where I'd order 3 times in one day spending stupid money on greasy garbage.
Also bare in mind getting to the root cause of why this happened needs patience. A lot of people are not so tuned in to their own feelings and may have a hard time explaining why they did something.
I don't know you personally so take what I say with a pinch of salt but they dont sound malicious. Stupid? Yes but i feel like this situation would be playing out very differently if there were genuine malicious intentions.
If you decide to have a bit of control over their finances in future dont consider it creepy if its consenual. Its only creepy when its forceful with ulterior motives.
Rebuilding trust is going to take time but it will help by understanding the thought process behind the actions. Spending ridiculous sums of money on takeout is what I do when im really struggling with my mental and need a dopamine hit quick. There were days where I'd order 3 times in one day spending stupid money on greasy garbage.
Also bare in mind getting to the root cause of why this happened needs patience. A lot of people are not so tuned in to their own feelings and may have a hard time explaining why they did something.