Back when I lived in a bigger city I had attempted to find groups to do stuff with through websites that sorta have open invitations for people to join hobby groups, the issue was that it was almost always at a restaurant which means you'd need to be able to afford going out to eat on a regular basis which I did not have the ability to do. Now that I live outside the big city, there is nothing. Any trans spaces are either for people under 21 or filled with boomers. At this point I'm just super anxious about going into public places which just continues to feed into the isolation.
I've basically given up on dating entirely because you can't convince me subjecting myself to predatory apps is good for me. They've made dating so "streamlined" and transactional a process that I'd rather stay alone than subject myself to it. I get why so many people have turned to incel shit because there is such a deep rot in our society that keeps us from being who we should be. In a community that supported these men and allowed them to fully express themselves, would they have turned into such shitters?
I had an extremely robust social support system early in college but it was because there were spaces and events created to get me to meet the rest of the community around me, there's nothing really out there for adults. Go out and eat with a bunch of rich white people, join a support group of boomers that would throw you out the instant you propose anything left of log cabin republican talking points, or sign up with organizations that don't even mention LGBT rights as part of their goals for "change."
Regarding the dating app point in particular, I'll add that there was a post here a few days ago about how the company that owns most of the big dating / hook-up services was funding anti-abortion groups.
Back when I lived in a bigger city I had attempted to find groups to do stuff with through websites that sorta have open invitations for people to join hobby groups, the issue was that it was almost always at a restaurant which means you'd need to be able to afford going out to eat on a regular basis which I did not have the ability to do. Now that I live outside the big city, there is nothing. Any trans spaces are either for people under 21 or filled with boomers. At this point I'm just super anxious about going into public places which just continues to feed into the isolation.
I've basically given up on dating entirely because you can't convince me subjecting myself to predatory apps is good for me. They've made dating so "streamlined" and transactional a process that I'd rather stay alone than subject myself to it. I get why so many people have turned to incel shit because there is such a deep rot in our society that keeps us from being who we should be. In a community that supported these men and allowed them to fully express themselves, would they have turned into such shitters?
I had an extremely robust social support system early in college but it was because there were spaces and events created to get me to meet the rest of the community around me, there's nothing really out there for adults. Go out and eat with a bunch of rich white people, join a support group of boomers that would throw you out the instant you propose anything left of log cabin republican talking points, or sign up with organizations that don't even mention LGBT rights as part of their goals for "change."
Regarding the dating app point in particular, I'll add that there was a post here a few days ago about how the company that owns most of the big dating / hook-up services was funding anti-abortion groups.