I believe Arlie Hochschild, who coined the term 'emotional labor', recognized this disparity early on and used the term 'emotional work' as the alternative term. It has historically been true (esp of black women who rarely got to be 'homemakers') that women are expected to provide a disproportionate amount of care, aid, and physical labor at home as well as in the workplace, which is one of the primary topics of Angela Davis's On Women, Race, and Class.