• JuneFall [none/use name]
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    2 years ago

    Material relations def. matter.

    While a friend of mine who had during uni a spare room that is nearly as large as my whole flat in which she would regularly host parties, get togethers, etc. while my non flatshare apt. was large enough for 2-3 people max. That lead to a significant comparable reduction in social interaction. Which changed once I got a larger flat to host meetings, too.

    So while my experience is different than yours I can anecdotally confirm your point.

    Is there however some social, common or communal space that you can more or less easily reach to be involved in routine social interaction? In my experience radio amateurs, hacker spaces, workshops like with tools, and neurodiverse meetups were groups in which autistic people were not uncommon and not seldomly had organizational roles. Oh also my food not bombs has a core team which deliver really good work.

    I do feel your want for long lasting connection and friendship though. Most places I experienced that were common shared projects, but not all commonly shared projects lead to that.

    • SadStruggle92 [none/use name]
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      2 years ago

      Is there however some social, common or communal space that you can more or less easily reach to be involved in routine social interaction?

      I live in the rural midwest, so for me the answer is that there is church; and nothing else unless I want to drive for more than an hour out of town, which I can't do on my leg right now, really. And I do not like to go there, because they do not respect me, or share my values.

      • JuneFall [none/use name]
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        2 years ago

        That def. sounds understandable. It is a hard situation. When I lived in a slightly more rural region than now we had some associations and groups which would drive around to bring events to small (read 1000-2000 pop) places and to fetch people who were not able to commute themselves for other events. However it is was from perfect.