this phrase can die a thousand deaths. men might be conditioned by patriarchy to pretend women can’t hurt or kill men, but fear has a way of continuing to exist underneath self-deception.

Seconding this to say that I was once in an abusive relationship with a woman who was physically violent and threatened to call the cops on me for domestic abuse if I tried to break up with her.

This sort of thing is a really clear example of how toxic masculinity also hurts men.