The concept of "your wife is your best friend" is, in my opinion, an example of capitalist atomization outsourcing emotional labor to women. The time required to foster good relationships in a community, as well as resources, have been lost, so everyone is nly allowed to be really close and emotionally vulnerable with their spouse. The woman usually has to play the role of surrogate mother, lover, and close friend. This is also why incels exist. Their community has been closed down to one person, and they don't have them. This is not to call out your parents, I just have had this analysis for a while and despise this part of culture.

And yes, I would be deeply uncomfortable with that. Because it's false pretenses. Lying and manipulation are a terrible way to start a relationship. If I want to court someone, I want to court them. It is fundamentally different from just wanting to be friends with them. Yeah I still will appreciate them as a person and if I go on a date or two and we aren't romantically clicking but still make good friends I can be happy with that but just acting like a friend when that's not how I intend to be later is just wrong to me.