• dismal [they/them, undecided]
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    2 years ago

    the fuck is this guy wven trying to say???? :agony-consuming: “reverse red flag” Huh??tf is going on with this guys thought process

    I count 6 valid red flags on that list. The rest are her preferences or just outright ridiculous reverse red flags.

    Buddy, you don't know what a red flag is. And "reverse red flags" aren't a thing. They're just your red flags. Which is fair, just don't go around acting like you're the arbiter of who is and isn't a creep.

    Red flags are not "If this person does X, they're toxic as fuck." Even though some people interpret them that way. The way most people use the term means moreso, "A lot of people who share this characteristic tend to be toxic"

    It's just part of being human. You make assumptions so you don't have to evaluate entire situations. Take for instance a forty year old man being friends with a 15 year old girl. That's a massive red flag most people can agree on, right? You'd probably avoid that man, or criticize him, right? Fairly normal behavior. For all you know, though, that could be her father or uncle or something. Some people would care enough to find out. Some people wouldn't.

    I have a massive headache so I'm gonna cut this tangent off because i no longer know where I'm going with this. I probably answered you.

    They aren't my red flags, they are the vast majorities. A reverse red flag is when expressing a belief that is fundamentally flawed shows the true character of a person and is therefore a red flag against them.For instance, it's perfectly acceptable to have a personal red flag against car guys or sports guys because of your previous experiences with a group, but if you dismiss every major male hobby as a red flag then it only shows that you are the problem. It's a reverse red flag because in attempting to express your dating/personal relationship limitations, you take it a step too far and paint yourself as the likely problem in all your interactions with said groups. So instead of being a way to determine if others are a problem, you reveal that you are the problem. Thus, reverse red flag.

    • stolase [undecided]
      hexagon
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      edit-2
      2 years ago

      the person who posted this on reddit is just weird, like yeah the woman has probably too many red flags but making fun of her publicly on a massive social media platform is pretty fucked up

    • AcidSmiley [she/her]
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      2 years ago

      every major male hobby

      the followijng items have been added to my list of red flags:

      • thinks gaming, killing animals, cars and sports are the entirity of "major male hobbies"

      • thinks there are "male hobbies"

      • uses "male / feeeeeemale" when they mean "masc / femme" (referring to humans as males / females instead of men / women was already on my list)