this woman is fucking based, i salute a hero for fucking with men :rosa-salute:
though i have had plenty of experiences where guys cuddled and were chill about it. but i do have a rigorous selection process, which almost all women develop as a defense mechanism
What?! Where are they, I'll stop em :arm-L: :top-use-words: :arm-R:
just uses that emoji ':powercry-1:' in general
They targeted bottoms.
Bottoms.
Like 95% of these make sense but doesn't have a bitmoji on snap? Also yo :sadness:
The bitmoji thing apparently has to do with people using blank Snapchat profiles for cheating and stuff.
I don't use Snapchat so I don't know
https://www.google.com/search?q=bitmoji&client=ms-android-att-us-rvc3&prmd=inv&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwi7mc6Fl4X5AhXIJUQIHS5VB_0Q_AUoAXoECAIQAQ&biw=384&bih=693&dpr=2.81
I was fully expecting 0 red flags but I don’t have Snapchat and use this emoji all the time 😂
True I’d never date someone young enough to include that in their red flags
i am an enthusiastic member of the 😂 community. i switched over from XD around the time i got a smartphone
Sounds like she's dated more than a few people. Bet there's a stupid story behind every one of these.
"well anyways Bob said "yo" a lot and he also shot my dog so that's why saying "yo" is a red flag"
Taking the boys in my project car to the hunting reserve while wearing my daily casual camo. But it won't be the same without you. 🥺
Wait I use that laugh crying face what's wrong with it :sadness-abysmal:
The youths have decided it makes you old now, I believe they use 😭 instead now
Likes short women. :hyperflush: and short men. 'course I like tall women too. Or men. Or enbies.
People are pretty :crush:
CW: carnism
Oh and I probably am going hunting at some point because it's the only fucking reason most of my extant social circle finds acceptable to own guns and I want more of them to own guns. IDK why people can't be happy just shooting paper (or fascists)
in case it means anything, i think the woman in the OP is waaaaaay too picky and you're probably cool
Whether she's too picky depends on what "red flag" means imo, like some people use it to mean caution and some people use it to mean instant non starter.
Of course if it's the latter that's still totally within her rights, just outside the norm.
i think "too picky" shouldn't be taken as a moral criticism, honestly. They're definitely within their rights to be as picky as they want. The only issue is that they might make themselves miserable in the process.
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Sorry for no reason, no pronouns in bio (not worth dealing with the weirdos who get mad when I do), "yo"/"sup", doesn't take good selfies
I was kinda generous with what I felt was the spirit of the red flags, like I think not having Snapchat shouldn't count for the Snapchat ones
Actually on that note maybe it's 3 because I get the impression that the "sorry" one is more about people who do so manipulatively whereas I do it out of habit
I get the impression that the “sorry” one is more about people who do so manipulatively whereas I do it out of habit
i honestly don't know what the difference is. thats probably a bad sign but yeah
i generally say it when i feel bad but i also say it when i don't know if i should feel bad or not. and then of course because my brain hates me sometimes i retroactively think i never actually felt sorry even though i did and i just stopped feeling sorry because someone forgave me a bit ago
I like short women, say "yo", and use 😂 unironically.
So I'm pretty much a giant walking red flag.
i think a lot of her red flags are dumb but like, who cares? just don't date this woman. i don't understand why r*dditors are raging about it (note that i didnt actually read the r*ddit comments, im not going to subject myself to that)
Death to America
They seem to be missing the point. A red flag is a warning sign right? It's not direct attack. The outrage over 'can't even like football😂 ' are entirely misplaced.
Idk if I'm just fucking old but to me a "red flag" is something that's telling you that thr guy or gal is fucked and you need to consider bailing on the relationship. Shit that's indicators for an abusive personality or being unhinged.
I think there's probably a case to be made that calling everything a "red flag" devalues the term and makes tiny foibles way more dramatic than they ought to be. Like idk, maybe shit like not being able to take a selfie should not be in the same category as compulsive liar or chronic alcoholic.
I don't think there's a smarmy word for 'very vague warning sign' that's widely used. My friend group uses 'yellow flag' to mean basically what this woman means, which is something that is associated with shitty people, but isn't really a red flag in and of itself. Kind of just a 'hey, watch out for signs of the type of shitty behavior that can come with being a car guy' or whatever.
Or like, if someone's a GAMER, it might be fine, but if you hear them saying KEK and FREN, probably time to cut and run.
that's an absolutely spot-on list, especially when it's coming from a woman with such shit taste in emojis
Most of her nos are rather valid. Some aren't mine, but whatevs, personal preference is OK.
"can't take a selfie" and "says sorry for no reason" it's literally me though 😂
buddy I'm on this list 9 times (although I'm trying to work on 2 of those)
I'm walking around covered in flags like that one samurai armor
the fuck is this guy wven trying to say???? :agony-consuming: “reverse red flag” Huh??tf is going on with this guys thought process
I count 6 valid red flags on that list. The rest are her preferences or just outright ridiculous reverse red flags.
Buddy, you don't know what a red flag is. And "reverse red flags" aren't a thing. They're just your red flags. Which is fair, just don't go around acting like you're the arbiter of who is and isn't a creep.
Red flags are not "If this person does X, they're toxic as fuck." Even though some people interpret them that way. The way most people use the term means moreso, "A lot of people who share this characteristic tend to be toxic"
It's just part of being human. You make assumptions so you don't have to evaluate entire situations. Take for instance a forty year old man being friends with a 15 year old girl. That's a massive red flag most people can agree on, right? You'd probably avoid that man, or criticize him, right? Fairly normal behavior. For all you know, though, that could be her father or uncle or something. Some people would care enough to find out. Some people wouldn't.
I have a massive headache so I'm gonna cut this tangent off because i no longer know where I'm going with this. I probably answered you.
They aren't my red flags, they are the vast majorities. A reverse red flag is when expressing a belief that is fundamentally flawed shows the true character of a person and is therefore a red flag against them.For instance, it's perfectly acceptable to have a personal red flag against car guys or sports guys because of your previous experiences with a group, but if you dismiss every major male hobby as a red flag then it only shows that you are the problem. It's a reverse red flag because in attempting to express your dating/personal relationship limitations, you take it a step too far and paint yourself as the likely problem in all your interactions with said groups. So instead of being a way to determine if others are a problem, you reveal that you are the problem. Thus, reverse red flag.
the person who posted this on reddit is just weird, like yeah the woman has probably too many red flags but making fun of her publicly on a massive social media platform is pretty fucked up
every major male hobby
the followijng items have been added to my list of red flags:
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thinks gaming, killing animals, cars and sports are the entirity of "major male hobbies"
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thinks there are "male hobbies"
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uses "male / feeeeeemale" when they mean "masc / femme" (referring to humans as males / females instead of men / women was already on my list)
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Her 3rd point makes it seem like parody
Or she is just that lacking in self awareness
